Family Counseling San Diego EMDR Bilingual Spanish

 

Family Counseling San Diego EMDR Bilingual Spanish

Lo que hacemos es nuestra pasión, nosotros vemos a muchas personas sufrir de la ansiedad, la afición, la depresión, bipolar, desórdenes(trastornos) de personalidad y luchas interpersonales. Invitan a parejas y familias enteras.

We offer Court Approved Co-Parenting Class so it can also help with your custody case and your children as you do not have to do this alone.


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  • We begin by asking you to click RED Button on Right for Intake Application and get insurance authorized for your visit.

  • If you do not know who your employer EAP insurance provider is or have the paperwork scan it or email it to us.

  • We accept Optum, Tri-Care West, TriWest VA, Healthnet, MHN, UHC/UBH/Optum, Humana, Cigna, Aetna, IEHP and many others are accepted.

What we do is our passion, we see many people suffering from anxiety, addiction, depression, bipolar, personality disorders and interpersonal struggles.

Our unique style has led use to be certified in Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), DBT, CBT, ACT treatments and court approved co-parenting, anger management. Which reduces vivid, unwanted, repeated thoughts, panic, urges and anxiety.  We are honored to be your guide in removing the suffering. Mr. Martin wrote book “Heart and Soul Towards Intimacy Couples Workbook.” We work as a TEAM and consult each week to improve your symptom quickly. Our initial session begins with designing a treatment plan and begin the healing journey towards a new life. It can take 6 to 20 sessions to get the level of improvement you desire through Family Counseling San Diego which offers EMDR and Bilingual Spanish.



After a divorce a family needs healing. Class Open Every Wed Night at 7 PM

Parenting, Co-Parenting Classes or High conflict co-parenting class helps you be successful during this transition in your life

We offer Court Approved Co-Parenting Class so it can also help with your custody case and your children.


Family Counseling San Diego Focuses on reducing conflict between parents going through divorce, separation and custody issues. We strive to add value to your lives by demonstrating how to communicate and cope with the
other parent, educate on the dynamics of parenting between two homes, and strengthen your
ability to emotionally detach and think clearly. Raising children in two homes can be a very difficult experience for everyone but we are here to help you navigate this road. You deserve to find balance in your lives and peace in your hearts and your children deserve happy and engaged parents every day.

Thank you for making an investment in the lives of your children!

WE HAVE 3 OPEN CLINIC POSITIONS

CES FDA Approved Anxiety, Mood and Sleep Disorders

CES FDA Approved Anxiety, Mood and Sleep Disorders

Treat Symptoms with Advanced Technology CESultra with 20 years of FDA approval

Designed collaboratively by world-class engineers and doctors, the CESultra Stimulator uses patented waveforms to gently stimulate the brain to produce serotonin and other neurochemicals responsible for healthy mood and sleep.

Unlike antidepressant medication that inhibits neuronal receptors from absorbing serotonin, the CESultra and Alpha-Stim Simulator enables the brain to produce serotonin naturally while improving the brain’s ability to regulate the limbic system.

Proven in multiple published studies, the device is cleared by the FDA to treat depression, anxiety and insomnia, as well as chronic pain when used on the body. Watch the video to learn how easy it is to use.

 When you ready to learn new ways to cope with stress come by Family Counseling Poway so you can unwind and stop the cycle of that negative voice in your head.

That negative self image which brings you down and prevents you from socializing. It is not easy to come to counseling and seek out someone else to help guide you back to center and assist you in finding balance in your life.

  • Are stress and anxiety putting a strain on your relationships and affecting your health?
  • Are you feeling overwhelmed, unable to enjoy spending time with your family, friends, or your children?
  • Stressed Overwhelmed Anxious?
  • Are you so worried about the future that you are feeling hopeless and depressed?

We provide counseling within a safe, supportive, caring environment, so you can face your difficulties constructively and confidently.

Let us free you to enjoy all of the good things life has to offer. If you are struggling with relationship issues, anxiety, depression, or need help healing from abuse or trauma, we can help.

Family Counseling Poway can get you back on track. CES FDA Approved Anxiety, Mood and Sleep Disorders.

Q. What research is there as to the safety and effectiveness of CES?

A. There are approximately 1,000 articles on CES therapy many of which are listed in four reviews put out by the Foreign Service Bulletin of the United States Library of Congress. This is in addition to the wealth of physiological and bio-engineering data on electrosleep and electroanesthesia in animals. As of this writing there are more than 100 research studies on CES in humans and 18 experimental animal studies. The efficacy of CES has been clinically confirmed through the use of 28 different psychometric tests. The significance of CES research for treating anxiety has also been reconfirmed through meta-analyses conducted at the University of Tulsa and at the Department of Health Policy and Management , Harvard University School of Public Health. The full body of research can be accessed at this website.

Cranio-Electro Stimulation (CES) is a non-invasive brain stimulation that applies a small pulsed electric current across a person’s head.

As Far back as the first century, the Greeks and Romans used the electric eel, a variety of the “Torpedo Fish” for electrical stimulation. First century writings record placing a live torpedo fish under the feet of a person suffering from gout to ease the pain. There are also reports of placing these fish on people’s foreheads to treat headaches.

Current interest in Cranio-Electrical Stimulation (CES) was initiated by Robinovitch, who in 1914 made the first claim for electrical treatment of insomnia. In 1958, the book Electro-Sleep reflected the first serious works on CES. This book inspired research in Europe and in Eastern Bloc countries, as well as in South America, Asia and finally the US. Because the CES equipment used was bulky, inconvenient, and unreliable, CES, like the electric eel, was abandoned in favor of drug therapies.

Improve energy level and physical well-being.

Most studies to date have shown CES as a reliable method to reduce anxiety and improve cognition in recovering alcoholics. Additional studies have shown CES to be an effective tool in reducing situational anxiety and improving IQ. We are here to help be your guide to a healthier new you. CES FDA Approved Anxiety, Mood and Sleep Disorders

Educación de Postdivorcio Conflicto alto de San Diego

 

Educación de Postdivorcio Conflicto alto de San Diego

Clase abierta todos los lunes por la noche a las 7 pm

10640 Scripps Ranch Blvd., STE 101, San Diego, CA 92131

¿Acentúes y pone la ansiedad una tensión sobre sus relaciones y afecta su salud?

¿Se siente usted abrumado, incapaz de disfrutar gastando(pasando) el tiempo con su familia,

amigos, o sus niños?

¿Acentuado Abrumado Deseoso?

¿Está tan preocupado usted sobre el futuro que usted se siente desesperado y deprimido?

Proporcionamos el asesoramiento dentro de una caja fuerte, el entorno(el medio ambiente) de apoyo, humanitario, entonces usted puede afrontar sus dificultades constructivamente y con seguridad.

Déjenos liberar usted para disfrutar de toda la vida de cosas buena tiene que ofrecer. Si usted lucha con publicaciones(cuestiones) de relación, ansiedad, depresión, o necesita la ayuda que se cura del abuso o el trauma, podemos ayudar.

El Asesoramiento de Familia Poway puede recuperarle sobre la pista.

El examinar de un divorcio es resistente sobre ambos padres y sus niños. Y puede ser difícil de mantener una actitud positiva en beneficio de sus niños. Pero usted puede ayudar a reducir al mínimo el trauma y aliviar la transición por tomando un curso de co-educación. Estas clases de educación para el divorcio enfocan a padres de ayuda aprenden a terminar el conflicto y satisfactoriamente el co-padre después de que ellos se separan.

Muchos estados ahora requieren la terminación de un programa de educación paternal antes de que un divorcio o la orden judicial que concierne la custodia sean ultimados. El tribunal que ordenó(pidió) las clases de educación de divorcio por lo general sean enfocadas(concentradas) en la aseguración de los padres siguen al co-padre a sus niños cuando ellos están más juntos. Ellos enseñan la educación esencial y habilidades de comunicación de ayudar guardar(mantener) a niños del medio del conflicto del padre.

El tribunal también puede decidir ordenar(pedir) estas clases si el divorcio es considerado como el alto conflicto. Enseñan a los padres como reducir la tensión por asegurando ellos actúan recíprocamente menos el uno con el otro y más con sus niños después del divorcio. Cuando los niños son el foco de la atención de su padre, ellos con menor probabilidad se sienten descuidados o se culpan para el divorcio de sus padres.

Co-Parenting, High Conflict Parenting, Anger Classes

Co-Parenting, High Conflict Parenting, Anger Classes current Schedule below. These are smaller groups for quality experience as most around San Diego are 12-15 we are at most 6-8

Wednesday – 7:00 PM High Conflict Co-Parenting Group / Class

Monday – 7:00 PM SPANISH High Conflict Co-Parenting Class / Group

10640 Scripps Ranch Blvd, STE 101, San Diego, CA 92131

at FamilyCounselingSanDiego.com, Inc, 

CALL NOW to get your space as space is limited.

We offer 2 ways to pay for these 10 x – 90 minute classes.

  1. The first package is a one time payment of $400.00 that is $40 per class
  2. The second package allows you to make 2 payments of $450 which is $45 per. The first payment is due at registration and the second payment will be billed to your credit card 4 weeks later.
  3. You can pay by the class for $50 per class.

IF UNEMPLOYED OR ON DISABILITY WE HAVE A REDUCED RATE MOST COME INTO OFFICE FOR INTAKE TO GET ASSESSED AND TO DISCUSS THE LOWER COST PROGRAM.

We can work with your financial situation to help make it possible to keep the judge and court happy. It is your responsibility to pay on-time so we can write you letter of completion to the court. 

Giving you an idea of what to expect when you go to court or mediation and give you strategies to get the best results.The High Conflict PARENTING CLASS Diversion Program is recognized in many jurisdictions Nationally and Mr. Walter Patrick Martin, LMFT is an expert in helping parents through this most difficult time. The High Conflict Diversion Program is designed to help change the circumstances of high conflict divorce and custody battles by:

  • Providing ways to distance yourself from the other parent and disengage from the habits that keep you stuck in the conflict.
  • Helping you understand that the other parent can only come into your life if you allow it.
  • Teaching you how to communicate with the other parent without having to ever have a conversation or argument.
  • Teaching you ways to set boundaries so the other parent does not push your button as much as now. Learning new ways to ID triggers when overwhelmed such that you maintain control better and decrease arguments around your child.
  • Helping you understand the courts so you aren’t in fear of what the court might or might not do. 

Military Deployment San Diego

Military Deployment San Diego

In my work with military families, the issue of safety comes up a lot, particularly regarding children’s concerns for the safety of their deployed or soon-to-be-deploying service member. This concern can be especially prevalent in the wake of news of another community member’s injury or passing. While we want to ease the fears and worries of our children, not to mention our own, we also wrestle with the understanding that there is an inherent risk of safety whenever our service member is deployed. We want to make our kids feel better, and we don’t want to lie to them, but we don’t want to scare them, either.

How do I talk to my kids about safety?

***Note: These tips can also be adapted to help non-military families talk about safety. For example, families who have a parent that travels a lot and the child(ren) worry about the parent’s safety while traveling and/or the at-home family’s safety while that parent is away.

Children sometimes ask questions and state concerns about deployment and the safety of their parents. These questions may come up at any time in the deployment cycle. Here are a few tips for talking about safety:

Ask if your child has any specific questions or concerns.

Most children are exposed to some world events thru television, radio, internet, and/or friends. Children may worry about something they heard or saw, but don’t necessarily understand. Ask if/what your child may be worried about to open the door to communication. Follow-up in response with, “What do you think?” to get a better idea of what/how much they already “know.” This then gives you the opportunity to clear up any misunderstandings, or false beliefs, and provide honest, age-appropriate information.

And, just by asking, you also lets your child know that it’s OK to be worried or scared, and that it’s OK to talk about it. Research shows us that children, particularly older children, often take on additional responsibilities and care-taking roles during a deployment, including trying to take care of their at-home parent. Sometimes this may prevent them from expressing their worries or fears because they do not want to add to their parents already overflowing plate. Opening the door to this conversation yourself, instead of waiting for your child to bring it up, can be a great reminder that you are still there and never too busy to talk.

Remind your child of the security that comes from the deployed parent’s skills, preparation, and training.

Just like your child practices to get better at a sport or musical instrument, his/her parents practice, too. Military parents have prepared and practiced with a team to learn how to stay safe and protect each other while they are working. Talking about these similarities with your children is a great, concrete way to help them better understand some of the ways their service member stays safe. You can also connect how the child learns new skills and works as a team in school to the training the service member receives with his/her co-workers.

Identify all the things the service member uses to stay safe.

Talk with your child about the parent’s gear and uniform. If possible, allow children to interact with and feel the heft and weight of the helmet, the pants, the boots and other items. While describing the importance of each item, explain how it helps to keep people safe. For example, “This is the helmet that protects dad’s head.” “This is the vest that protects mom’s chest and back.” “Dad’s parka protects them from the rain and snow.”
Using this hands-on approach allows them to feel and see the uniform and safety gear. This hands-on interaction can be informative and reassuring for your child.

You can also identify the different things you use as a family to stay safe at home. This may include wearing your seat belts in the car, helmets when riding bikes, using cell phones to communicate in a crowded mall or store, or the use of fire alarms to alert you to any potential fire. This may help your child relate his/her personal experiences to that of his/her service member.

Support your child’s connection to the deployed parent using available communication.

Teenager Angry Maybe Depression

Teenager Angry Maybe Depression

A friend once asked me about his son, who was about to turn 20. As a teenager, the boy had a quick temper. His dad assumed that his short fuse was related to that awkward stage of life. But now, on the brink of adulthood, the young man seemed to be getting worse. He’d been less able to deal with criticism, minor upsets, jokes, or comments contrary to his point of view.

The young man’s father didn’t know if his son’s behavior was normal, or if it was a sign of depression or other problem. He also wanted to know how to talk with his son about his anger or bring him to Family Counseling San Diego for an assessment.

To understand this situation, it helps to put yourself in a 19-year-old’s shoes. Still inexperienced, there are big challenges ahead: graduating from high school, entering the work force (in a tough economy) or starting college, living away from home for the first time. These are stressful transitions for anyone.

But when a teen gets angrier as time goes by — or more rigid and defensive — it is a cause for concern. At the very least, this is not a very adaptive response to life’s challenges and it can make every day tougher than it needs to be. Whether it’s depression or just anger is probably less important than the fact that the teen is suffering and could use some help we have multiple male and female counselors to help at Family Counseling San Diego.

On the Cusp of Adulthood – Teenager Angry Maybe Depression

A 19-year-old is no longer a child, but neither is he or she a fully-fledged adult. This in-between state, which may be more apparent in wealthy countries, can extend well into the twenties. Some human development researchers have begun to call it “emerging adulthood.” In theory, it is a time of life when a person takes life’s possibilities more seriously. Emerging adults know that responsible choices matter. But they are still young enough that they aren’t ready to make lasting commitments.

People are reaching the usual adult milestones — financial independence or getting married and having children — later and later. It’s not clear if the trends are a natural part of human development or a product of the social and economic changes in our communities.

No matter what we call this stage, it presents a tricky time for parents and their children. Emerging adults must decide how much help they want or are willing to accept from their parents or anyone else. At the same time, parents must decide how much help is reasonable to give.

Taking a step back does not mean abandoning your child. By the time a child hits young adulthood, the goal is to replace direct help with encouragement about (and belief in) your child’s ability to manage these responsibilities on his own. And that can spur the process of maturing.

Understanding Anger

Teenager Angry Maybe DepressionThe origins of anger, and other feelings, vary from person to person. Anger could be a sign of depression or substance abuse (the National Institute on Drug Abuse has useful information about this, and advice about talking with a child about it.) It could be a manifestation of anxiety about “making it” in the grown-up world. It could signal some crisis, like trouble in a relationship.

It’s also possible that it’s just you. It is very common for children of any age, but especially teenagers, to be intolerant of parents’ input, whether it is constructive criticism, helpful advice, or being playful. It is even worse when your in the military moving around the country, Mr. Walter Patrick Martin, LMFT works locally with San Diego City Schools during the day one of the High Schools providing Military Family Life Counseling. He states it is an honor and enjoys every moment working with the teenagers at the school site in addition he is also a Star Behavioral Health Provider.

Make time to Talk

I advised my friend that he should calmly get this message to his son: He was taking his son’s problems seriously, and his son owed it to himself to take the problems seriously, too. I wanted my friend to remind his son in a loving way that he was becoming responsible for his own life, that he respected his son, and trusted his son’s ability to manage whatever problems came up.

Here are some different ways to start that discussion:

“You are your own person. I only get to see how you interact with me. Perhaps you are quite happy when I’m not around, but from my perspective you seem very unhappy.”
“You don’t have to talk to me about it. If you’re managing things on your own, I respect that. But if you are unhappy and you don’t want to talk to me about it, there are plenty of other people you could talk to.”
“You may not be interested in help right now, but I’ll always be willing to help you, or help you find someone other than me to help you, if and when you want it.”
Teenager Angry Maybe Depression Family San DiegoYour child may respond with anger. When you’re working hard to be helpful, and you’re met with hostility, it’s tempting to strike back. Resist that impulse. Your child may take the advice to heart and get help. But there is no guarantee he or she will report back. Or say thanks.

At least not right away. But if the growing up process takes hold, my friend might someday hear something like this from his son: “Hey, Dad. Remember a few years ago when I was being such a pain? Thanks for putting up with me.

(This article is adapted from a longer version written for InteliHealth.com.) Teenager Angry Maybe Depression

Teenager Help Cutting Addiction

Teenage Depression Cutting San DiegoTeenager Help Cutting Addiction

Did you know that there are website/blogs on “wants to cut yourself”. It’s important to note that self-injury is rarely life threatening. However, because of the revulsion many people feel about it, many therapist have an appropriate response. That said, it doesn’t matter how severe or minor the physical injuries are. It’s what’s going on inside that matters. Cutting, also known as self-injury or self-mutilation is the practice of manipulating a mood or emotional state by inflicting physical harm on a person’s own body. EMDR within 8 sessions a teenager will begin a new outlook on life and have a chance to change the behavior now. All the teenager needs is the desire to want to change.

What is the Payoff of Cutting?

Self-injury releases tension – both physiological and psychological – very quickly. A person who cuts can turn a state of overwhelm into a state of relative calm almost immediately. Cutting reduces panic to simply feeling bad.

Self Harm = Self Love (Cutting Addiction Begins)

It is a destructive coping skill like many others in our society – drinking, anorexia, or working too much. It does not mean the person is crazy, or that they are attempting suicide. Get EMDR started today to help gain a new outlook.  In fact, the self-injury may relieve tension to the point that the person no longer considers suicide.

Why Do Kids Cut Themselves?

Cutting also gives the child a great sense of control. Some kids do it as a form of self-punishment, but this isn’t always the case. Many cutters use it to express feelings that there are no words for. It also follows the addiction cycle.

Cutting is not done, as frequently believed, to “fit in” or to garner attention. Many teens will go to great lengths to hide the effects of the behavior in an attempt to avoid adding shame to their already fragile mental state.

One common denominator in kids who cut themselves is an inability to express their feelings. They either never learned how to do it or were invalidated when they tried. They have gotten the idea, possibly from an abusive home life though not always, that certain feelings are wrong and not to be articulated. They may have not had a role model for coping with troubling situations in a healthy way.

Some kids are predisposed toward this kind of behavior and it may take very little to set it off. Serotonin may be involved in making some kids more aggressive and impulsive than others, therefore more likely to self-mutilate. EMDR brakes the addiction to cutting. Once a kid tries the behavior and realizes the immense stress relief it provides, it may seem like a good idea for the next time the child is under stress.

Traumatized youth often display behaviors associated with PTSD or begin to self medicate with drugs. They may have changes in their sleep patterns: trouble falling asleep, interrupted sleep, restlessness, nightmares, not wanting to sleep in their own beds, or bed-wetting. Children may act out their trauma in their play with their action figures, dolls, or stuffed animals. Some become irritable, and overreact to situations, while others are numb, under react and have an “I don’t care” attitude. Hyper vigilance can be observed in some children. They lose the ability to discern between normal and dangerous situations and can misinterpret social cues, making relationships difficult. This also can be problematic in school as these children are constantly scanning their environment for danger which effects their concentration and attention. Learning issues are common in abused and neglected children. Current research also indicates that chronic traumatization can affect brain functioning leading to problems in regulating emotions and behavior, difficulties in attachment, problems with self soothing, and self injury. For many children the trauma is influencing current actions and their bodies react without the mind understanding why. They can exhibit anger, aggression, defiance, impulsiveness, and resistance. Teachers, case workers, foster parents, and parents often interpret this behavior as oppositional, attention seeking, or uncooperative. Adults misguidedly respond to the behavior with behavioral consequences that do not always work, instead of resolving the trauma. The child is unable to respond logically as the emotional part of the brain is active, and the thinking rational part of the brain is not accessible.

When to Seek Professional Help

Children, from infants to adolescents, are exposed to trauma as anything non nurturing is traumatic to a child. As the child develops and has difficulty developing interpersonal relationships depression in the form of anger and rage can develop. This is when you hear your teenager or pre-teen make statements like “I want to die.” Overall this teen or pre-teen has begun to go down the rabbit hole of negative thought patterns. This leads to cutting behavior and/or addictive behaviors toward substances. It is time to have a professional assess the situation. There is too many teens or pre-teens that are in pain with the developmental language ability to express the feelings which then turns inward. Go to a professional which can help lead your child out of the dark thoughts.