Family Counseling San Diego EMDR Addiction Trauma

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Family Counseling San Diego EMDR Addiction Trauma

Welcome to a passionate multidisciplinary group of professionally trained clinicians to combine western and eastern techniques to unleash a healthy new you! We specialize with military families and work closely with Tricare or OneSource when children require residential care we help with the child and family prepare for the transition home. We offer sliding-fee-scale counseling services for individuals, couples and families, as well as groups that can help you effectively manage anger and healthy relationships or marriage. We strive to finding solutions and decreasing symptoms quickly. 

EMDR-Trauma-TherapyOur management team is EMDR Certified which is a highly effective treatment for trauma, complex trauma, panic attacks, obsessive thinking, phobias, decrease cravings and complex anxiety. All of our treatment towards your recovery has extensive research of its effectiveness. Our founder Mr. Martin is also author of “Heart and Soul Toward Intimacy Couples Guide” found on Amazon.

Our holistic system is not offered anywhere else with FDA approved CES treatment continuing bilateral treatment at home that our clinicians can prescribe following intake for anxiety, sleep or depression click on Buy Now for the Square CES Shopping Area. At least 118 clinical studies on effectiveness of CES on anxiety, addiction, depression and sleep restoring healthy brain chemistry, re-balances through bilateral square wave energy field theory. Within days you begin feeling better. We want you to get better soon. That is why there is a 60 day money back guarantee.

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Ending Anxiety’s Vicious Cycle with Mr. Martin’s Effective Treatment Approach, Taking Back Control of Your Life without pharmacological intervention by taking home CES unit today. Medications should only be used as a last option in a treatment plan not the first. Get free phone assessment by one of our highly trained team today.

W Patrick Martin, MA, LMFT, EAS-C, EMDR Certified, Operations Director, EMDR International Association professional member and International Employee Assistance Professionals Association member with Employee Assistant Specialist – Clinic Certification. Employee Assistance Program  discovered that CES and a unique style of EMDR therapy is actually a method that every therapist dreams about, i.e., it is as efficient as it is time effective. Usually I have been able to see significant positive results in only one session. Give it a try and see the difference. Feel peaceful once again. The proven medical treatment of Cranial Electrical Stimulation (CES) re-balances your brain’s chemistry. Many people report feeling relief from the very first time they use the CES Ultra. Your brain chemistry re-balances while anxiety plummets. And unlike drugs, CES is so safe, you can use it as much as you want. Now you have the power achieve peace of mind and move forward with your life.


Janet Phillips, LCSW, Clinical Director has years of experience working with a diverse population including children, adolescents, adults and families in both inpatient and outpatient settings. She is current working in an outpatient setting with San Diego County assigned to do Behavioral Health Assessments for Clients with Medicare, and the completion of the Client Plans, and Individual Therapy. Janet received her Masters of Social Work at San Diego State University. She has extensive experience working with children and teens in clinic, school and community venues, assisting them in developing social and anger management skills.


Vincent Marquez, MSW, LCSW, Education Director is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 10 years of experience working with adults, families, and children. Vincent specializes in Court Ordered classes and is heading development of new DV, Anger Management and Co-Parenting classes. Vincent builds on the personal strengths of his clients by providing practical tools to enhance their overall mental health and quality of life. Vincent obtained his Masters in Clinical Social Work from the University of Chicago. He completed clinical training at the University of Illinois, Department of Psychiatry in their College of Medicine: Colbeth Psychiatric Clinic. At the Institute for Juvenile Research, Vincent was trained in several evidence-based practice models for anxiety, depression, and trauma. Vincent has extensive experience working with adults and children impacted by intimate partner and family violence.



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Treating ADHD: Medications vs. Neurofeedback

How Does Neurofeedback Work?

Picture of brainwave patterns and neurofeedback.The theory of neurofeedback is based on a simple concept – When you have information on what your brainwaves are doing, your brain can use that information to change how it works Neurofeedback is also known as EEG Biofeedback. Neurofeedback is guided exercise for the brain. It is actually a learning modality designed to retrain dysregulated brainwave patterns.

The goal of all neurofeedback is to transform an unhealthy, dysregulated brainwave pattern into a normal, healthy, organized pattern. By doing this, the brain becomes more stable and is able to operate optimally and efficiently. It is completely noninvasive and is considered by the Food and Drug Administration to be safe.

In fact the Food and Drug Administration recognizes that neurofeedback has NEVER produced a serious side effect since it was first discovered over 40 years ago. Published scientific research has demonstrated neurofeedback’s efficacy in managing many neurological conditions such as ADHD, Migraine and Tension Headache, Insomnia, Chronic Pain, Post Stroke Syndrome, Anxiety and Panic Attacks as well as many others.

OUR UNIQUE VISION

To be your community behavioral healthcare clinic leading the way in client care. Utilizing tools that are FDA approved to improve symptoms of depression, anxiety and sleep. We are inspired by people like John Dupuy the founder of Intergral Recovery, here is a a bio on him. John Dupuy is a native of Texas and grew up in Latin America. John is a veteran of the United States Army, where he served in Europe as a military police investigator. John has a Bachelor’s degree from Texas State University in Modern Languages (German and Spanish) and a Master of Arts degree in Transpersonal Psychology from John F. Kennedy University. John is the founder of Integral Recovery, has published various articles on the subject, and in 2013, his book Integral Recovery: A Revolutionary Approach to the Treatment of Alcoholism and Addiction was published by SUNY Press, later to win the 2013 USA Best Book Award. As stated when John Dupuy describes the CES technology used in his Integral Addiction Recovery Program he states CES is designed to help re-balance the brain. At least 118 clinical studies on effectiveness of CES on anxiety, addiction, depression and sleep restoring healthy brain chemistry, re-balances through bilateral square wave energy field theory.

“Unequivocal Positive Results in Every Case with Negligible Exceptions. Approximately 95% of my private practice patients are in possession of their own personal CES device which I have found to be most effective and beneficial treatments over standard pharmaceutical treatment” according to Brain Earthman, MD, Psychiatrist, Major USAR, Medical Director Electrometrical Products International, Inc.

“Neurological Devices Panel of the Medical Devices Advisory Committee to the FDA on Cranial Electrotherapy Stimulator (CES) Reclassification Meeting on February 10, 2012 indicated that the largest customer for AlphaStim CES is DOD. Military use of Cranial Electrotherapy Stimulation (CES)” according to Dr. Stein’s Testimonial request expedited review of CES reclassification as CES is currently being utilize in Army, Navy and VA hospitals. He stated that Enormous Target Populations, many drug resistant patients, many drug addicted patients would benefit greatly if CES technology could be more widely utilized in the psychiatric community.

Utilize best practices that is result driven for example, Traditional neurofeedback which is similar to weight training, where you work specific muscle groups, in brain you are training one or more specific brain waves in a targeted area of the brain based on operant conditioning to help retrain the brain waves to optimal levels. Within this type of neurofeedback involves low-frequency sounds and involves prepackaged neurofeedback equipment for audio-visual entertainment (AVE), which has blinking lights that can cause seizures.

EEG Neuro-Feedback software and sending CD home with patient with bilateral sounds to assist in increasing symptom reduction. Brainwave Entertainment Meditation, one of the essential practices in an ongoing, lifelong mind and body change.


Contact us today at 760-498-1053 (Live receptionist 760-513-6587 24 hours a day) to learn more and have a free phone consultation anytime.   


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Neuro-Programmer Software with EEG

Due to our unique cutting edge holistic approach utilizing Neuro-Programming Software, Cranial Electric Simulator (Creates a micro ((extremely small)) magnetic electrical pulse) tunes the brain to correct frequency for optimal health. Walter Martin, MA, LMFT, EAS-C is a result driven leader and designed this group the same way. It can be challenging to get an appointment. We suggest that that you make 4 appointments through our online scheduling system. Our digital assistant provides interactive texts and emails to assist in communication. Credit card is requested and if you confirm appointment within our system and continue to have a no show without 24 hour notice there is a $50 charge automatically. This applies to all insurance and non insurance clients. Sessions normally are $150.00 per session but always work with you to create an affordable rate. We also will work within your budget if you have difficulty paying the standard fee. We want everyone to experience relief of the suffering related to anxiety, mood, depression and psychosis and have the highest quality of life you can experience.


Parenting, Co-Parenting, High Conflict Parenting, Anger Management Classes.

SHOW UP AT 7PM

Every Thursday Night at

10650 Scripps Ranch Blvd, STE 131, San Diego, CA at FamilyCounselingSanDiego.com

OR CALL 760-498-1053

We offer 3 ways to pay for these 9 – 90 minute classes of max of 6 people. Very personal teaching. Not like most classes of 15 in the area.

  1. The first package is a one time payment of $555.00.
  2. The second package allows you to make 2 payments of $280.. The first payment is due at registration and the second payment will be billed to your credit card six weeks later.
  3. The Third package allows you to pay as you to make three payments of $202.00. The first payment is due at registration and the next two payments 4 weeks apart. (This option may not be available for all classes)
    Special payment arraignments can be made per need.

IF UNEMPLOYED OR ON DISABILITY WE HAVE A REDUCED RATE.

We can work with your financial situation to help make it possible to keep the judge and court happy. It is your responsibility to pay on-time so we can write you letter of completion to the court. Anger Management starting July 2016. Custody Evaluation 730 Assessment is also offered.

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The High Conflict PARENTING CLASS Diversion Program is recognized in many jurisdictions Nationally and Mr. Walter Patrick Martin, LMFT is an expert in helping parents through this most difficult time. The High Conflict Diversion Program is designed to help change the circumstances of high conflict divorce and custody battles by:

  • Giving you an idea of what to expect when you go to court or mediation and give you strategies to get the best results.

  • Providing ways to distance yourself from the other parent and disengage from the habits that keep you stuck in the conflict.

  • Helping you understand that the other parent can only come into your life if you allow it.

  • Teaching you how to communicate with the other parent without having to ever have a conversation or argument.

  • Teaching you ways to set boundaries so the other parent gets their nose out of your

  • Helping you understand the courts so you aren’t in fear of what the court might or might not do.

    Help you take control over your life.

Military Deployment San Diego

Military Deployment San Diego

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Military Deployment San DiegoIn my work with military families, the issue of safety comes up a lot, particularly regarding children’s concerns for the safety of their deployed or soon-to-be-deploying service member. This concern can be especially prevalent in the wake of news of another community member’s injury or passing. While we want to ease the fears and worries of our children, not to mention our own, we also wrestle with the understanding that there is an inherent risk of safety whenever our service member is deployed. We want to make our kids feel better, and we don’t want to lie to them, but we don’t want to scare them, either.

How do I talk to my kids about safety?

***Note: These tips can also be adapted to help non-military families talk about safety. For example, families who have a parent that travels a lot and the child(ren) worry about the parent’s safety while traveling and/or the at-home family’s safety while that parent is away.

Children sometimes ask questions and state concerns about deployment and the safety of their parents. These questions may come up at any time in the deployment cycle. Here are a few tips for talking about safety:

Ask if your child has any specific questions or concerns.

Most children are exposed to some world events thru television, radio, internet, and/or friends. Children may worry about something they heard or saw, but don’t necessarily understand. Ask if/what your child may be worried about to open the door to communication. Follow-up in response with, “What do you think?” to get a better idea of what/how much they already “know.” This then gives you the opportunity to clear up any misunderstandings, or false beliefs, and provide honest, age-appropriate information.

And, just by asking, you also lets your child know that it’s OK to be worried or scared, and that it’s OK to talk about it. Research shows us that children, particularly older children, often take on additional responsibilities and care-taking roles during a deployment, including trying to take care of their at-home parent. Sometimes this may prevent them from expressing their worries or fears because they do not want to add to their parents already overflowing plate. Opening the door to this conversation yourself, instead of waiting for your child to bring it up, can be a great reminder that you are still there and never too busy to talk.

Remind your child of the security that comes from the deployed parent’s skills, preparation, and training.

Just like your child practices to get better at a sport or musical instrument, his/her parents practice, too. Military parents have prepared and practiced with a team to learn how to stay safe and protect each other while they are working. Talking about these similarities with your children is a great, concrete way to help them better understand some of the ways their service member stays safe. You can also connect how the child learns new skills and works as a team in school to the training the service member receives with his/her co-workers.

Identify all the things the service member uses to stay safe.

Talk with your child about the parent’s gear and uniform. If possible, allow children to interact with and feel the heft and weight of the helmet, the pants, the boots and other items. While describing the importance of each item, explain how it helps to keep people safe. For example, “This is the helmet that protects dad’s head.” “This is the vest that protects mom’s chest and back.” “Dad’s parka protects them from the rain and snow.”
Using this hands-on approach allows them to feel and see the uniform and safety gear. This hands-on interaction can be informative and reassuring for your child.

You can also identify the different things you use as a family to stay safe at home. This may include wearing your seat belts in the car, helmets when riding bikes, using cell phones to communicate in a crowded mall or store, or the use of fire alarms to alert you to any potential fire. This may help your child relate his/her personal experiences to that of his/her service member.

Support your child’s connection to the deployed parent using available communication.

military mom with sonInteracting with or talking to the deployed parent (i.e.: sending letters or emails; talking over the phone or video chat) can also help ease a child’s worries about the service member’s physical safety. During times when the deployed parent is not available, building in rituals to include him/her in everyday life help children to feel more connected. For example, trace mom or dad’s hand and put it on the refrigerator so that your child can give their deployed parent a high-five after school each day. Or before deployment, save the the service member reading your child’s favorite book on a DVD for free via the USO’s United Through Reading Program. You can also write-up the service member’s daily schedule along with your child’s daily schedule to help your child answer the question “Where is dad/mom right now?” For example, the schedule helps show that, when he is having breakfast, dad is getting ready for bed, or that when he is having dinner, mom is just waking up.

For more ideas and information on how to talk to your kids about safety, how to stay connected (as a spouse or as a family), or the many other challenges/concerns that come with a deployment,

 

Teenager Angry or is it Depression

Teenager Angry or is it Depression

teenage counseling san diegoA friend once asked me about his son, who was about to turn 20. As a teenager, the boy had a quick temper. His dad assumed that his short fuse was related to that awkward stage of life. But now, on the brink of adulthood, the young man seemed to be getting worse. He’d been less able to deal with criticism, minor upsets, jokes, or comments contrary to his point of view.

The young man’s father didn’t know if his son’s behavior was normal, or if it was a sign of depression or other problem. He also wanted to know how to talk with his son about his anger.

To understand this situation, it helps to put yourself in a 19-year-old’s shoes. Still inexperienced, there are big challenges ahead: graduating from high school, entering the work force (in a tough economy) or starting college, living away from home for the first time. These are stressful transitions for anyone.

But when a teen gets angrier as time goes by — or more rigid and defensive — it is a cause for concern. At the very least, this is not a very adaptive response to life’s challenges and it can make every day tougher than it needs to be. Whether it’s depression or just anger is probably less important than the fact that the teen is suffering and could use some help.

On the Cusp of Adulthood

A 19-year-old is no longer a child, but neither is he or she a fully-fledged adult. This in-between state, which may be more apparent in wealthy countries, can extend well into the twenties. Some human development researchers have begun to call it “emerging adulthood.” In theory, it is a time of life when a person takes life’s possibilities more seriously. Emerging adults know that responsible choices matter. But they are still young enough that they aren’t ready to make lasting commitments.

People are reaching the usual adult milestones — financial independence or getting married and having children — later and later. It’s not clear if the trends are a natural part of human development or a product of the social and economic changes in our communities.

No matter what we call this stage, it presents a tricky time for parents and their children. Emerging adults must decide how much help they want or are willing to accept from their parents or anyone else. At the same time, parents must decide how much help is reasonable to give.

Taking a step back does not mean abandoning your child. By the time a child hits young adulthood, the goal is to replace direct help with encouragement about (and belief in) your child’s ability to manage these responsibilities on his own. And that can spur the process of maturing.

Understanding Anger

The origins of anger, and other feelings, vary from person to person. Anger could be a sign of depression or substance abuse (the National Institute on Drug Abuse has useful information about this, and advice about talking with a child about it.) It could be a manifestation of anxiety about “making it” in the grown-up world. It could signal some crisis, like trouble in a relationship.

It’s also possible that it’s just you. It is very common for children of any age, but especially teenagers, to be intolerant of parents’ input, whether it is constructive criticism, helpful advice, or being playful. It is even worse when your in the military moving around the country, Mr. Walter Patrick Martin, LMFT works locally with San Diego City Schools during the day one of the High Schools providing Military Family Life Counseling. He states it is an honor and enjoys every moment working with the teenagers at the school site in addition he is also a Star Behavioral Health Provider.

Make time to Talk

I advised my friend that he should calmly get this message to his son: He was taking his son’s problems seriously, and his son owed it to himself to take the problems seriously, too. I wanted my friend to remind his son in a loving way that he was becoming responsible for his own life, that he respected his son, and trusted his son’s ability to manage whatever problems came up.

Here are some different ways to start that discussion:

“You are your own person. I only get to see how you interact with me. Perhaps you are quite happy when I’m not around, but from my perspective you seem very unhappy.”
“You don’t have to talk to me about it. If you’re managing things on your own, I respect that. But if you are unhappy and you don’t want to talk to me about it, there are plenty of other people you could talk to.”
“You may not be interested in help right now, but I’ll always be willing to help you, or help you find someone other than me to help you, if and when you want it.”
Your child may respond with anger. When you’re working hard to be helpful, and you’re met with hostility, it’s tempting to strike back. Resist that impulse. Your child may take the advice to heart and get help. But there is no guarantee he or she will report back. Or say thanks.

At least not right away. But if the growing up process takes hold, my friend might someday hear something like this from his son: “Hey, Dad. Remember a few years ago when I was being such a pain? Thanks for putting up with me.

(This article is adapted from a longer version written for InteliHealth.com.)

Teenager Help EMDR

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Did you know that there are website/blogs on “wants to cut yourself”. It’s important to note that self-injury is rarely life threatening. However, because of the revulsion many people feel about it, many therapist have an appropriate response. That said, it doesn’t matter how severe or minor the physical injuries are. It’s what’s going on inside that matters. Cutting, also known as self-injury or self-mutilation is the practice of manipulating a mood or emotional state by inflicting physical harm on a person’s own body. EMDR within 8 sessions a teenager will begin a new outlook on life and have a chance to change the behavior now. All the teenager needs is the desire to want to change.

What is the Payoff of Cutting?

Self-injury releases tension – both physiological and psychological – very quickly. A person who cuts can turn a state of overwhelm into a state of relative calm almost immediately. Cutting reduces panic to simply feeling bad.

It is a destructive coping skill like many others in our society – drinking, anorexia, or working too much. It does not mean the person is crazy, or that they are attempting suicide. Get EMDR started today to help gain a new outlook.  In fact, the self-injury may relieve tension to the point that the person no longer considers suicide.

 

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Cutting also gives the child a great sense of control. Some kids do it as a form of self-punishment, but this isn’t always the case. Many cutters use it to express feelings that there are no words for.

Cutting is not done, as frequently believed, to “fit in” or to garner attention. Many teens will go to great lengths to hide the effects of the behavior in an attempt to avoid adding shame to their already fragile mental state.

One common denominator in kids who cut themselves is an inability to express their feelings. They either never learned how to do it or were invalidated when they tried. They have gotten the idea, possibly from an abusive home life though not always, that certain feelings are wrong and not to be articulated. They may have not had a role model for coping with troubling situations in a healthy way.

Some kids are predisposed toward this kind of behavior and it may take very little to set it off. Serotonin may be involved in making some kids more aggressive and impulsive than others, therefore more likely to self-mutilate. EMDR brakes the addiction to cutting. Once a kid tries the behavior and realizes the immense stress relief it provides, it may seem like a good idea for the next time the child is under stress.

Traumatized youth often display behaviors associated with PTSD or begin to self medicate with drugs. They may have changes in their sleep patterns: trouble falling asleep, interrupted sleep, restlessness, nightmares, not wanting to sleep in their own beds, or bed-wetting. Children may act out their trauma in their play with their action figures, dolls, or stuffed animals. Some become irritable, and overreact to situations, while others are numb, under react and have an “I don’t care” attitude. Hyper vigilance can be observed in some children. They lose the ability to discern between normal and dangerous situations and can misinterpret social cues, making relationships difficult. This also can be problematic in school as these children are constantly scanning their environment for danger which effects their concentration and attention. Learning issues are common in abused and neglected children. Current research also indicates that chronic traumatization can affect brain functioning leading to problems in regulating emotions and behavior, difficulties in attachment, problems with self soothing, and self injury. For many children the trauma is influencing current actions and their bodies react without the mind understanding why. They can exhibit anger, aggression, defiance, impulsiveness, and resistance. Teachers, case workers, foster parents, and parents often interpret this behavior as oppositional, attention seeking, or uncooperative. Adults misguidedly respond to the behavior with behavioral consequences that do not always work, instead of resolving the trauma. The child is unable to respond logically as the emotional part of the brain is active, and the thinking rational part of the brain is not accessible.

Cartoon about therapyWhen to Seek Professional Help

Children, from infants to adolescents, who have been placed by Child Protective Services have endured serious events and need to be assessed as quickly as possible. A mental health assessment evaluating the impact of trauma in the life of a child is as important as a mandated physical examination. This needs to be a priority after the child is safe. The longer children go without psychological treatment the more entrenched the trauma and the manipulative coping behavior becomes. Untreated trauma can result in repeated disrupted placements, ongoing misinterpretations of social cues, and suspensions and detentions in school. This intensifies the trauma effects. The negative reactions and behavior will continue to escalate, and treatment becomes more difficult. It is clear that the sooner treatment occurs after a traumatic event, the quicker and easier it is for children to move on in their lives without the baggage of the past becoming more overwhelming. Early treatment of trauma, allows children to grow and develop into the healthy and productive individuals they were supposed to be, before trauma struck their lives. Let your child be free of the trauma caused by divorce or witnessing domestic violence.