Co-Parenting, High Conflict Parenting, Anger Classes

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Co-Parenting, High Conflict Parenting, Anger Classes current Schedule below. These are smaller groups for quality experience as most around San Diego are 12-15 we are at most 6-8

Wednesday – 7:00 PM High Conflict Co-Parenting Group / Class

Monday – 7:00 PM SPANISH High Conflict Co-Parenting Class / Group

10640 Scripps Ranch Blvd, STE 101, San Diego, CA 92131

at FamilyCounselingSanDiego.com, Inc, 

CALL NOW to get your space as space is limited.

We offer 2 ways to pay for these 10 x – 90 minute classes.

  1. The first package is a one time payment of $400.00 that is $40 per class
  2. The second package allows you to make 2 payments of $450 which is $45 per. The first payment is due at registration and the second payment will be billed to your credit card 4 weeks later.
  3. You can pay by the class for $50 per class.

IF UNEMPLOYED OR ON DISABILITY WE HAVE A REDUCED RATE MOST COME INTO OFFICE FOR INTAKE TO GET ASSESSED AND TO DISCUSS THE LOWER COST PROGRAM.

We can work with your financial situation to help make it possible to keep the judge and court happy. It is your responsibility to pay on-time so we can write you letter of completion to the court. 

Giving you an idea of what to expect when you go to court or mediation and give you strategies to get the best results.The High Conflict PARENTING CLASS Diversion Program is recognized in many jurisdictions Nationally and Mr. Walter Patrick Martin, LMFT is an expert in helping parents through this most difficult time. The High Conflict Diversion Program is designed to help change the circumstances of high conflict divorce and custody battles by:

  • Providing ways to distance yourself from the other parent and disengage from the habits that keep you stuck in the conflict.
  • Helping you understand that the other parent can only come into your life if you allow it.
  • Teaching you how to communicate with the other parent without having to ever have a conversation or argument.
  • Teaching you ways to set boundaries so the other parent does not push your button as much as now. Learning new ways to ID triggers when overwhelmed such that you maintain control better and decrease arguments around your child.
  • Helping you understand the courts so you aren’t in fear of what the court might or might not do. 
LaTysa Flowers CPDPE

Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator (Latysa Flowers) call 858-663-2939 to ask any questions
Classes promote positive and nurturing parenting. Parents learn stress reduction and problem-solving skills along with positive discipline techniques with a Certified
Positive Discipline Parent Educator (LaTysa Flowers) and Family Support Specialist that build healthy family relationships. Discussion includes communication, self-esteem, child development and growth, substance abuse, domestic violence, and community resources.

The targeted audiences are caregivers of children with relationship challenges, behavior challenges, power struggles, sibling fights, communication problems, emotional and self-regulation (parent and child) problems, lack of motivation and follow through, problems with routines, problems with family work, homework challenges, problems following disciplinary actions, and lack of mutual respect.

Positive Discipline Parent Education promotes an internal locus of control, self-regulation, understanding others’ perspectives, and the desire to contribute in meaningful ways to the community. The model can be categorized as a form of “authoritative” parenting – one that promotes a strong parent-to-child connection, as well as clear boundaries/limits. This parent education program teaches parents specific tools to help implement authoritative parenting that has been identified by Dr. Diana Baumrind as optimal for child development and overall well-being. Furthermore, these tools are designed to help parents balance being kind and firm at the same time.

Examples of parenting tools include: encouragement, using curiosity questions, tone of voice, acting without words, validate feelings, and limit setting. This program gives parents alternatives to using rewards and punishment. Positive Discipline Parent Education is taught in groups using an experiential model. Participants engage with the material through role-play and activities that invite them to connect the new material with their current life. The model also gives parents/care-givers the opportunity to practice new skills within the safe environment of the class.

The goals of Positive Discipline Parent Education are:

  • Decreased harshness in parenting
  • Increased connection (parent to child)
  • Increased skill (parental and child) in self-regulation
  • Increased skill in communication
  • Increased skill in sharing and teaching responsibilities
  • Increased skill in solution-focused problem solving
  • Ability to build family connections through the use of family meetings

Classes also address building a natural support network and wellness plan for parents and caregivers.

All classes are presented in a trauma informed and culturally responsive environment.

Teenager Angry Maybe Depression

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Teenager Angry Maybe Depression

A friend once asked me about his son, who was about to turn 20. As a teenager, the boy had a quick temper. His dad assumed that his short fuse was related to that awkward stage of life. But now, on the brink of adulthood, the young man seemed to be getting worse. He’d been less able to deal with criticism, minor upsets, jokes, or comments contrary to his point of view.

The young man’s father didn’t know if his son’s behavior was normal, or if it was a sign of depression or other problem. He also wanted to know how to talk with his son about his anger or bring him to Family Counseling San Diego for an assessment.

To understand this situation, it helps to put yourself in a 19-year-old’s shoes. Still inexperienced, there are big challenges ahead: graduating from high school, entering the work force (in a tough economy) or starting college, living away from home for the first time. These are stressful transitions for anyone.

But when a teen gets angrier as time goes by — or more rigid and defensive — it is a cause for concern. At the very least, this is not a very adaptive response to life’s challenges and it can make every day tougher than it needs to be. Whether it’s depression or just anger is probably less important than the fact that the teen is suffering and could use some help we have multiple male and female counselors to help at Family Counseling San Diego.

On the Cusp of Adulthood – Teenager Angry Maybe Depression

A 19-year-old is no longer a child, but neither is he or she a fully-fledged adult. This in-between state, which may be more apparent in wealthy countries, can extend well into the twenties. Some human development researchers have begun to call it “emerging adulthood.” In theory, it is a time of life when a person takes life’s possibilities more seriously. Emerging adults know that responsible choices matter. But they are still young enough that they aren’t ready to make lasting commitments.

People are reaching the usual adult milestones — financial independence or getting married and having children — later and later. It’s not clear if the trends are a natural part of human development or a product of the social and economic changes in our communities.

No matter what we call this stage, it presents a tricky time for parents and their children. Emerging adults must decide how much help they want or are willing to accept from their parents or anyone else. At the same time, parents must decide how much help is reasonable to give.

Taking a step back does not mean abandoning your child. By the time a child hits young adulthood, the goal is to replace direct help with encouragement about (and belief in) your child’s ability to manage these responsibilities on his own. And that can spur the process of maturing.

Understanding Anger

Teenager Angry Maybe DepressionThe origins of anger, and other feelings, vary from person to person. Anger could be a sign of depression or substance abuse (the National Institute on Drug Abuse has useful information about this, and advice about talking with a child about it.) It could be a manifestation of anxiety about “making it” in the grown-up world. It could signal some crisis, like trouble in a relationship.

It’s also possible that it’s just you. It is very common for children of any age, but especially teenagers, to be intolerant of parents’ input, whether it is constructive criticism, helpful advice, or being playful. It is even worse when your in the military moving around the country, Mr. Walter Patrick Martin, LMFT works locally with San Diego City Schools during the day one of the High Schools providing Military Family Life Counseling. He states it is an honor and enjoys every moment working with the teenagers at the school site in addition he is also a Star Behavioral Health Provider.

Make time to Talk

I advised my friend that he should calmly get this message to his son: He was taking his son’s problems seriously, and his son owed it to himself to take the problems seriously, too. I wanted my friend to remind his son in a loving way that he was becoming responsible for his own life, that he respected his son, and trusted his son’s ability to manage whatever problems came up.

Here are some different ways to start that discussion:

“You are your own person. I only get to see how you interact with me. Perhaps you are quite happy when I’m not around, but from my perspective you seem very unhappy.”
“You don’t have to talk to me about it. If you’re managing things on your own, I respect that. But if you are unhappy and you don’t want to talk to me about it, there are plenty of other people you could talk to.”
“You may not be interested in help right now, but I’ll always be willing to help you, or help you find someone other than me to help you, if and when you want it.”
Teenager Angry Maybe Depression Family San DiegoYour child may respond with anger. When you’re working hard to be helpful, and you’re met with hostility, it’s tempting to strike back. Resist that impulse. Your child may take the advice to heart and get help. But there is no guarantee he or she will report back. Or say thanks.

At least not right away. But if the growing up process takes hold, my friend might someday hear something like this from his son: “Hey, Dad. Remember a few years ago when I was being such a pain? Thanks for putting up with me.

(This article is adapted from a longer version written for InteliHealth.com.) Teenager Angry Maybe Depression