Victim of Violence Protective Order Links
his section is for anyone seeking help, or adults helping a suffering child who is not your own.
Are you being abused? If punishment regularly causes bleeding, or leaves marks on your body, you may be a victim of physical abuse. If you are under 18 and unwillingly providing sexual gratification to someone, you may be a victim of child sexual abuse. You can check for signs and symptoms of abuse here:
Signs and Symptoms:
If this is happening to you, here are some important things for you to know:
- No one has the right to abuse you.
- You don’t deserve to be abused.
- If you are being abused, you are a victim.
- It’s not your fault that you are being treated this way.
- It is wrong that you are suffering this pain, fear or sadness.
- You are not alone. Other kids suffer abuse, too.
- Sometimes abusers scare or threaten kids so they won’t tell.
- There are people who care about you and want to help you.
If you are being abused, please tell a safe person – that’s someone you can trust like a teacher, counselor, school nurse, neighbor or parent.
There are places you can call for advice and help, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week:
CHILDHELP USA HOTLINE counselors can help you. They work with translators, and there is probably one that speaks your language. They don’t know who you are and you don’t have to tell them. CALL 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a hotline counselor.
THE RUNAWAY HOTLINE can help if you have run away or are thinking about it. They help you help yourself by talking through your problems and helping you find a plan of action. CALL 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). They can help you find a safe place to go.
How to protect yourself:
- Do not be alone with anyone who hurts you.
- Listen to the little voice inside when it says that what is being done to you isn’t right.
- Find an adult you trust and tell them what is happening. If the first adult doesn’t believe you, keep telling until someone does believe you.
The adult you talk to about your abuse may want to tell the police or child protective services about the person who is hurting you. If the child in need is not related to you, we may still be able to help.
DISCLAIMER: These links are listed for informational purposes, and does not necessarily indicate our recommendation or endorsement.
Support and Networking Sites
Legislation, Legal Resource, & Information Sites
California Family Law
(This is a law site but not necessarily supportive of our cause. There is good legal information here, however, the website owner has chosen to place links on this site to Parental Alienation Evaluators. IOW, take what you want but leave the rest)
Divorce Network (nationwide info)
Stories and Related News Links
Excerpt From Mothers On Trial, Published August 05, 2011
By Phyllis Chesler
Courtesy Lawrence Hill Books
Editor’s note: Fox News Opinion presents the introduction and an excerpt from the completely revised second edition of Phyllis Chesler’s book “Mothers on Trial”:
This is a book that cried out to be written. I first heard that cry in the mid-1970s and, after years of research, published the first edition of “Mothers on Trial: The Battle for Children and Custody” in 1986. At the time, the book created a firestorm and was widely, if controversially, received.
In the last twenty-five years, there have been some improvements, but matters have decidedly worsened. The book you are holding has been revised and updated and brought into the twenty-first century.
Myths about custody still abound. Most people still believe that the courts favor mothers over fathers—who are discriminated against because they are men—and that this is how it’s always been. Click here to read more . . .
Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody
, Legal Strategies and Policy Issues
Editors: Mo Therese Hannah, Ph.D. and Barry Goldstein, J.D
“In a trend that started in the 1980s, and increasingly since then, family court judges across the U.S. have ordered thousands and thousands of children into unsupervised visitation with abusive biological fathers. In many cases, mothers have been denied any form of custody, with some losing all contact with their children. In the last few years, attorneys and social service advocates have met to address this issue at the annual Battered Mother’s Custody Conferences. This book brings together the expertise and perspective of more than thirty contributors to BMCC in a comprehensive resource that arms advocates with the best thinking and most effective legal strategies in the battle to protect mothers and families from a system that often fails to address abuse and sometimes actually worsens the problem.”
On Family Court, from Multiple Personality Disorder and Other Psychiatric Disorders, page 157
By Colin Ross
“In fact, ‘borderline’ organization is characteristic of many different systems. Consider the legal system. The legal system has borderline personality disorder. At least in my jurisdiction, the legal system is perverse, destructive, and prone to aggressive acting out. The core of the Unified Family Court in Winnipeg, for instance, is the double bind. The legal system is a system of justice designed to protect honest citizens and punish criminals, supposedly. In practice, in family law, one is actively rewarded for fraudulent affidavits, unethical behavior, self-interested abuse of family members, and psychopathic opportunism. One is bunished for honest and decent behavior, which is not ‘smart’ according to the rules of the system. To be ‘smart’ and to ‘win’ in the justice system, one must be a moral criminal.”
Tempest in the Temple
Editor: Amy Neustein and Contributor: Michael Lesher
In “2006, New York magazine and ABC’s Nightline both featured stories dealing with rabbis who had abused children entrusted to them. Then, at the start of 2007, the Jewish Telegraphic Agency published a five-part series on sexual abuse by rabbis who led congregations, taught religious studies, and ran youth groups. The series soon was picked up by Jewish newspapers nationwide. Despite this spate of media coverage, there has been a dearth of scholarly material investigating sexual abuse within the Jewish clergy. Tempest in the Temple brings together fifteen practicing rabbis, educators, pastoral counselors, sociologists, mental health professionals, and legal advocates for abuse victims, each of whom offer insights into different facets of the problem.”